Thursday, September 11, 2014

Making and Breaking Promises to Kids

Has your child ever accusingly said, "But you promised!"? Did you break a promise or did your child misinterpret a statement as a promise when no promise was intended?

Being intentional about what is a promise and what is not can be helpful in avoiding misunderstandings. Once you make a promise, it is important to follow through with whatever you promised.

Remembering Broken Promises

People remember broken promises for years, especially if it was an emotional event. Often remembering the situation even triggers some of those original emotions.

One 50-year-old woman recalled being at a pool and being afraid of going down the slide. Her dad was in the water and promised her that he would catch her. However, when she came sliding down, he didn't catch her.

She popped right up after being under water and reasoned that her dad just wanted her to learn that she could do it. Years later, she clearly remembers that broken promise and her feelings of being deceived.

I remember as a teen being promised by my friend's aunt to be driven up to a lake cabin where my friend was spending a couple weeks in the summer. The aunt cancelled the trip the day before we were supposed to leave; I was crushed.

Recovering From a Broken Promise

What do you do when you’ve broken a promise to your child and now your child is upset? Rick explained that he had promised his 12-year-old son that he would play a game of cribbage with him that night. However, time slipped by and it was time for bed before they got to play the game.

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Friday, September 5, 2014

How Exposure to Violence Affects Babies and Toddlers

Watch this video for the latest ideas on how exposure to violence affects a child's developing brain.


Thursday, August 21, 2014

Continually Negotiating With Kids Is Exhausting

Do you find yourself worn down from your kids asking for a little more? It might be a little more time to play video games, more time before going to bed or more dessert. Kids have plenty of energy and motivation when it comes to negotiating for something they want!

Sometimes it is appropriate to negotiate with your kids. They may have new ideas or information to consider in your decision.

However, when you are negotiating on things that come up over and over again, it’s time for a rule. You may want to give your kids input on the rule. Once the rule is established though, the rule is enforced without further discussion.

For example, one couple set the rule for their kids that video games playing was a maximum of 60 minutes a day. Video games could only be played after dinner. They stuck firmly to this policy and their kids learned that was the rule and there was no use trying to negotiate!

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Smoothly Transitioning Back to School

Transitioning from the laid-back, flexible summer schedule to the intense school schedule can be tough for both you and your kids. Whereas summer days have few deadlines, school has daily deadlines from getting to school on time to turning homework in. No wonder it’s a difficult change to make!

Even if you or your kids are looking forward to fall and school starting, the ending of summer can bring up feelings like sadness, grief and anxiety. All transitions involve an ending. It’s hard to have something you enjoy come to an end. You may still wish to hold onto the summer even as it slips away.

Making the Transition to School Mornings Easier

The first day of school is a stark reminder that transition is here, like it or not! How can you plan ahead to make the transition as smooth as possible for both you and your kids?

One place to start is to look at your morning routine. What does your ideal school morning look like? What drives you crazy in the morning?

Do any of these things stress you out?

  • Screaming at your kids to get out of bed?
  • Seeing wet towels left on the floor?
  • Rushing around in a desperate attempt to find library books that are due?
  • Arguing over appropriate clothes to wear to school?
  • Scrambling to complete school forms that are due?
  • Nagging your kids to brush their teeth?
  • Reminding your kids for the umpteenth time to hurry up so they aren’t late?

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Thursday, August 7, 2014

Taking Time Out to Sharpen Your Parenting Skills



Would you like to have more fun and less stress with your kids?
Even when you know how you'd ideally like your family to operate, it can be challenging to make those intentions a reality.

You don't want to yell at your kids, yet you find yourself yelling. You want your kids to treat you with respect, yet you struggle with this. You want to be on the same parenting page as your spouse and yet you have very different approaches with the kids.
happy family walking together
Raising kids is not easy. In these classes we'll explore ideas that can save your sanity and pave a path to a joyful family life. You'll have time to ask questions about specific challenges you are facing.
Space is limited. Register today through EvergreenHealth.com/classes.

Choice #1 - for parents with kids ages 1 to 5  
Dates: Saturday, September 6th, 9:30 - 4:30 PM
Location:  Evergreen Hospital, 12040 NE 128th Street, Kirkland, WA
Cost: $99/person or $149/couple

Description:
Parenting young children can be exhausting! Discover how to set limits on inappropriate behavior, respond to tantrums and whining, recognize developmentally appropriate behavior, encourage cooperation and enjoy more fun together.

 

Choice #2 - for parents with kids ages 6 to 12  
Dates: Saturday, September 13th, 9:30 - 4:30 PM
Location:  Evergreen Hospital, 12040 NE 128th Street, Kirkland, WA
Cost: $99/person or $149/couple

Description:
Discover how to parent your kids now in ways that typically produce fantastic teens instead of rebellious, self-destructive teens. Find out how to set reasonable, valuable consequences for your children's misbehavior, guide your kids to resolving their own conflicts, avoid power struggles and have more fun with your kids!

 

Choice #3 - for parents with kids ages 13 to 18  
Dates: Saturday, September 20th, 9:30 - 4:30 PM
Location:  Evergreen Hospital, 12040 NE 128th Street, Kirkland, WA
Cost: $99/person or $149/couple

Description:
Develop a parenting approach that matches your teen's growing independence. Discover how to move from confrontation to cooperation, set limits on inappropriate behavior, guide your teens to making healthy decisions and prepare them to successfully launch as young adults.

 

Choice #4 - for parents who can't attend these classes  
You can learn from the comfort of your own home by taking an online parenting class for Ages 5 and Under, 6 to 12 or 13 to 18. Start today!

Please join me for the class that best fits your family. If you have any questions, feel free to call me at 425-770-1629.

Warm Regards,

     Kathy Slattengren, M. Ed.
     President, Priceless Parenting

P.S. If you know someone who might enjoy taking these classes, please do me a favor and send them a link to this page.

 

Thursday, July 24, 2014

CEU Credit for Online Parenting Classes

The award-winning online parenting classes offered by Priceless Parenting are now approved for CEU credit in California and Washington. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (LMFT), Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Licensed Educational Psychologists (LEP) and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselors (LPCC) can receive continuing education credit.

These classes have transformed thousands of formerly frazzled families from across the United States to Australia. Parents quickly learn ways to improve cooperation and reduce conflict from the comfort of their own home. After completing a class, Amanda Mullins from Defiance, OH wrote "This parenting class was extremely informative and interesting. I found it easy to understand, and I loved the real-life examples included. I'd recommend this course to anyone. It's truly been helpful to myself and my family!"

Psychotherapist Dr. Marcy Cole suggested that the classes should be offered for CEU Credit for professionals supporting parents. She gave this recommendation after reviewing the classes for inclusion in her Childless Mothers Adopt program. Dr. Cole was impressed with the depth of the information and the engaging way it was presented through videos and stories of real parenting situations.

President of Priceless Parenting, Kathy Slattengren, M. Ed., responded “It was wonderful hearing Dr. Cole’s positive, enthusiastic feedback on the classes. She immediately saw how these classes could help professionals while also fulfilling their continuing education requirements. Priceless Parenting is pleased to now offer CEU credit for the classes in California and Washington. We plan to add more states in the future.”

Different parenting classes are available based on the children’s ages: 5 and under, 6 to 12 and teens. The classes are grounded on decades of positive parenting experiences from real life situations and backed by the latest scientific research in child development.

Narrated slides and videos are used to teach the material with homework suggestions to try out the ideas. Each class is self-paced and takes about 6 hours to complete. There is a short quiz before participants can print out their CEU Certificate of Completion.


Friday, July 18, 2014

Talking to Your Kids about Porn

Do you really need to talk to your kids about porn? Yes. Why? Because it is so prevalent online. Researchers report the average age of a child's first exposure to pornography is 11 years old.

Certainly you should take measures to lock down your digital devices so that your young children don’t accidentally stumble into porn. However, as they go to friends’ homes and ride on school buses, they are at risk for being exposed to porn.

By bringing up the topic with your kids, you have a chance to discuss your family values and how porn fits into those values. You can let your kids know that if they are ever frightened or concerned about what they see online, they should let you know.

You can also share what researchers have learned about viewing porn. According to an article by Psychologist John Sommers-Flanagan,
“Viewing more porn is associated with:
  • Engaging in sexually aggressive acts (including rape or sexual assault)
  • Becoming depressed, anxious, and stressed
  • Functioning more poorly in real social interactions (and ironically, becoming impotent)
Research also reveals that young boys who view lots of porn are more likely to be sex offenders. And here’s the most disturbing thing I’ve discovered. Over 80% of pornography includes violence towards women.”

You can help your children think through the consequences of porn by discussing these facts and how porn and violence against women are connected. By talking through the issues associated with porn, you help your kids develop their own internal moral code.